Holding off to avoid judgement is ridiculous – how can two people have sex at the same time but only one of them does it too soon?
Any guy who loses interest in you for having casual sex “too soon” is not worth having around.
Dating Tips and Q&A with Yours Truly I wrote the first version of this article in 2012, and since then I’ve gotten hundreds of emails and comments asking about what to do in certain situations.
Here are the most common questions and my answers to each.
You Leave Some Stuff at Their House If he’s leaving a pair of boxers at your place, it’s a sign.Meeting Friends Meeting each other’s social group is a big step.If you make it past the gauntlet of scrutiny from their friends, things are well on their way.The final milestone is when you know it’s official – whether you say it’s a serious relationship or not.Unscheduled Time Together When you start hanging out together without making plans in advance, you know things are getting serious.Why bend over backwards to make someone you barely know happy? A prime example of this is a guy who brings a girl flowers on the first date.A nice gesture, but how do you know she deserves them? Some women might be wondering if having sex too soon is scaring guys away.Two, they don’t want to get serious but want the other benefits of dating.Let them know what you’re looking for and pull back a bit.Whatever your answer is, that’s the main cause of your behaviour.If your answer is something like “to find the one”, you’re gonna come across as needy.