Missionaries who were in my family ward, but I don't really talk to? ) Is there a certain friendship/acquaintance level that denotes what boys I should write when they're on their mission and how often I should write them? Since then, we've remained in contact, but not so much as before. Before he left, we had talked about me writing him and he had mentioned something about how I would have a good excuse to not date weird guys because I would be able to tell them I was writing a missionary.
Missionaries that I met at EFY and I'm friends with on Facebook so I know their mission addresses, but haven't talked to since EFY? I didn't think I had given him the impression that I would be writing to him in a romantic sense- in fact I had adamantly expressed my opinions to him that girls should not wait for missionaries or write to them as girlfriends, future wives, etc. Plus, the actual letter can serve as a memento and give opportunities for contemplation that the "instant-ness" of emails doesn't.
This is column is just one guy's opinion, and while he does his best to keep what he thinks, says and writes in-line with the Gospel of Jesus Christ, "Dear Bro Jo" is not an LDS Church website. Those are my general questions, I also have more specific ones about a situation I am in.
(And Sister Jo thinks you should know that he's sometimes wrong, and often way too opinionated for his own good.) Hey Bro Jo, Thanks for your dedication to helping the young people of the Church figure out some of their problems, even though I don't always agree with everything you say, I do appreciate it. Last year, I was visiting the hometown of a guy I had met at EFY a year before.
One missionary in South Africa told me self-doubt struck him when he heard his usually composed wife weeping uncontrollably in the bathroom.That day when her back gave out, every nerve in her body flared, and the girl collapsed as though paralyzed.Funk rushed to his daughter, but touching her only made the pain worse.So, I'm hoping for your advice and opinions- How do I write him and encourage him on his mission without becoming a distraction? It's a good and thoughtful letter, and I appreciate the opportunity to get all of this down in one place, so here we go! Relatives first (brothers, cousins, nephews); guys you know better than others next (home ward brothers, guys from seminary, boys you dated but never hated); miscellaneous guys last. This is not just a question of how often, but how often he writes back, and how close you are. Do you see any red-flags with our friendship and writing each other (aside from summer roadtrips- I realize that that would not have been Bro Jo approved)? Sorry for the large amount of content, and thank you so much for all your help! ) Thank you for the kind words; even Sister Jo doesn't agree with me all the time . You can never write your sibling too often; once a week is great! I let him know that I didn't want to be a distraction to his mission, but we'd write as friends. Nothing mushy, flirty, or along the lines of "too bad you're there and not here" letters. I get the sense that you're emailing so much that it's more like chatting on-line - that's WAY TOO MUCH contact and distraction.Since he left, we've been both writing and emailing, but predominantly emailing because the mail takes so long to get to and from an overseas mission. The biggest Red Flag is if you fail to go on lots of dates while he's gone.I'm not sure if these are questions that only I have, or if many girls are unsure of missionary writing protocol, but I could certainly use your help! Does writing a missionary need to be constant correspondence? Is it rude to receive a reply letter from a missionary and not answer it promptly? Regardless, many months of flirtatious texting ensued.My questions about the topic are rather numerous... Missionaries that I was friends with before they left? Does how often I write depend on how much I have to say? Last summer, before we entered college, I took a roadtrip with some friends that included a stop in his town for a few days (it may have been our main destination, but we went other places too! During this time, I realized that I actually wasn't that interested in him romantically, but the extent of his feelings for me also came out, which were much greater than I expected.He assured me he wasn’t one of those helicopter parents—he simply “hid around the corner and watched” his kids.Oftentimes, Funk could do little except pray for them, as he did when his children mourned the loss of friends who killed themselves or were killed.