More often than not, this is the "wish" of the person that has Alzheimer's. After years of loneliness his wife asked for permission to divorce and remarry…Both his wife and new husband cared for him to this day. Many people I know who condemned Terry Schiavo’s husband for “moving on”, calling it “adultery” but were very sympathic in the case I just described… The problem with the Terry Schiavo case is that he WAS still married to her! No, we're snuffing ourselves out at the beginning and the end of life, so eventually, humanity will cease to exist. Someone with later-stage Alzheimer's or severe dementia is not the same person as the one their spouse married.The family asked him to step out and stop making horrible decisions. And if you think that "personhood" is something mere mortals can define, then anyone can define anything about missing limbs, the blind, the deaf, the freckled because they are prone to skin cancer, the obese because they are prone to health problems, the unborn, the elderly --but then you have to define what is "elderly". I sincerely doubt the author is implying they are not human - simply that they are not the same one.
The family has generally not supported his decision.
He was a young 60 year old and I was a young 58 year old. My husband has been in a nursing home for 16 months and my partner's wife recently died of Alzheimer's disease. My partner has deceived his family in order to hide our affair.
When I met him he hadn't been able to speak to or have sex with his wife for several years.
I met my current partner on the "men seeking women" heading of the personal ads on Craigslist. I am appropriately not a focal point of their lives. His children are in there 20's, unmarried, and in constant contact with their father.
He was caring for his wife, who suffered from severe early onset dementia and was looking for a woman caring for a spouse with dementia. We are both good people who were faced with horrible situations and are trying to cope the best we can. I have no qualms about revealing my relationship with this wonderful man should the subject come up. They would be mortified if they knew their father had been seeing another woman for over two years before her death.