If you’re dealing with a disapproving adult child, it always helps to understand where their concern is coming from.
Perhaps you lost your spouse to an illness or your marriage ended in divorce.
We’ve put together a guide to help you deal with your children’s issue and find a loving relationship.
Certainly many parent-child relationships mature into a friendship of equals.
On a logical level this may not drive a child to say to you, “Mom, I don’t want you dating,” but their behavior may reveal a subconscious attempt to sabotage your efforts.
They may come up with odd objections, or being unwilling to help you make the time and resources to date.
If you’ve been through a draining divorce, they may worry that your next relationship could end in similar pain and disappointment.It will be up to you to sit with your children and explain the different perspective that age brings.You’ll need to help them see that you accept the risk of some pain for the joy that you’re likely to get from a romantic relationship. Do you remember the first time your child asked to take the car out on a Saturday night?If a person asks you for money, no matter how good the reason, the chances are 99.9% that a swindle is in progress.Helping your children know that you appreciate this fact will set everyone at ease.Tell them that the love of children and/or grandchildren can’t satisfy a person who needs love, romance, and companionship from a significant other.Help them understand that you’re more than their parent – you’re a person as well.For parents with adult children the scenario is a common one. Raising children isn’t easy, but it’s usually one of life’s greatest blessings.You share that you’re finally dating and they stare with a look of terror. If you can just make it through the terrible two’s, the confused tween years, the rebellious teen years, and the college debt, you’ll end up with a loving, hassle-free relationship to last the rest of your days – the conventional thinking goes.Sometimes, however, grown children create a new set of issues trying to parent their parent, and nowhere does this create more problems than when the parent starts to date.This guide can help older daters get a better handle on their new romantic life and their adult children.