But let’s consider the statement: The heart knows what the heart wants. Consider…As we mature, friendships become more selective.In reality you are not “friends” with your thousands of Facebook friends.However, if this is a true friend, take a minute to consider the risk of losing him or her forever. As a general rule, I would say the longer you wait, the better.Ask yourself if this friendship is strong enough to handle the repercussions? Was the previous relationship one that ended at the altar or was it a fling? I also believe, however, that life throws us curve balls.They separated & filed for divorce and we started dating a few month later (no affair, no pre-planning, etc). This is a long time friend of mine, but by no means a close friend (someone I met through other friends that I see maybe 2-3 times a year at the most).We dated for about 2-3 months and about a 2 months ago she got kind of distant out of nowhere one day and then I found out she went back to her ex about a month ago...Still, others have taken the risk and over time, the relationship did not work out, leaving them with both an ex-friend and an ex-partner.
If you are in agreement, it’s time to break the news to the friend (your overlapping social network will also be grateful once this step is complete).
We often have a tendency to romanticize experiences.
Ask yourself, did their relationship end because of the ex, and if so would he or she be any different in a relationship with you?
Do you pursue her or do you decide it’s not worth the risk of losing your friend?
Some would argue that this decision comes down to whether you choose to listen to the devil on your right or the angel on your left.