"Many people with a dating addiction find it difficult to stop the search, even when they become involved in a relatively serious relationship.So after being monogamous with one person for a few months, when the initial infatuation begins to fade (perhaps he or she detects some fatal flaw), the compulsive itch to return to the hunt comes back.And when it comes to sex addiction, that first step is a doozy. The list is long and gets darker the further down you go: compulsive masturbation, exhibitionism, voyeurism, prostitutes.The list of behaviors associated with a sexual addict is so mundane, practically anyone can tick off at least a couple. "If you’re married, your acceptable sexual behavior may be defined differently than if you’re single,” says Mike Weiss, a certified addiction therapist and founder of The Sexual Recovery Institute.But then he discovers one slight flaw; perhaps he loves to ski and she doesn't, or she is a bit shorter than he would like.In his mind he still plans on seeing her again, and at the conclusion of their first date he is totally sincere when he takes her phone number and says he will definitely call her.Perhaps that person might even continue the relationship for a while, even after picking up the phone and calling his dating service counselor and exclaiming in an excited voice "Take my membership off hold! "Steve Penner was the owner of the Boston-based dating service Lunch Dates for nearly 23 years and interviewed and listened to feedback from thousands of singles from all over New England. Penner's book, "The Truth about Dating Revealed; How to Realize and Raise Your Dating Quotient," is available at local bookstores and through his Web site where he also blogs about dating and relationships and pop culture. He doesn’t care how many partners you’ve had; it’s all in the past. To find out the answer, fall back to the fundamentals: identifying the addict is the first step. One-night stands, extra-marital affairs, GPS hook-ups, obsessive online dating.
As the owner of the dating service Lunch Dates for 23 years, I saw many singles whom I would classify as being addicted to dating.
One divorced man in particular told me that now that he was in his mid 50s (and also very successful), he was going to be very, very picky.
He actually admitted that in a sense he was going to gain "revenge" for the women who had rejected him when he was younger.
Overall, it is predominantly (though certainly not exclusively) men over 40, who find it so much easier to meet women than when they were younger.
As men get older their Dating Quotient rises, and for many of them it is like being the proverbial "kid in the candy store."I interviewed several men who related how difficult it was for them get women to go out with then when they were in high school or college or in their 20s.