Would you take this particular leap, sight unseen, without any knowledge of serious potential problems in the foundation of the house, legal complications you might get saddled with, extensive infestation of termites, or expensive structural issues that may need to be addressed? To shift back to love relationships, these stakes are puny in comparison to the acceptance of a legal bond with another person in which you bind your finances, your hopes, and dreams to theirs while exclusively committing your emotional and sexual fidelity to them for the rest of your life! My over-arching theory of the life course of successful relationships, described more fully in my book, includes the notion that all relationships begin with what I call the “cocaine rush” phase.The cocaine-rush phase is an initial period of intense, highly pleasurable bonding based on the mutual fantasy that you and the other person are ideally matched and perfectly suited for each other.Making this connection between the two states of being may provide insight into some of the commonly reported experiences associated with falling in love.
If the contract were completely binding with no built-in escape clause (which, thankfully, isn’t generally true when you buy a home), would you commit all of your savings to this deal?
Naturally, you might begin to ask about the history and condition of the house. Her research has been presented at multiple conferences and she was awarded the Mc Laughlin Dissertation Research Award for her meta-analysis of stressor effects on marriage in an aggregated sample of over 164,000 married individuals.
Imagine that your realtor said, “Well, I don’t know, there might be some problems, but there’s no time to do a home inspection. In 2008, she organized and coordinated The Lifestyle Poll Project, a study of over 1,200 well-educated women.
Specifically, she found that the same brain chemicals (that is, massive amounts of dopamine and norepinephrine ) are in play, and many of the same brain pathways and structures are active when we are falling in love and enjoying a cocaine-high.*** Consider the specific euphoric effects of smoking crack cocaine.
In the short run, according to the website cocaine.org, smoking crack cocaine leads to enhanced mood, heightened sexual interest, a feeling of increased self-confidence, greater conversational prowess and intensified consciousness…