Says Cane, "Firstborns like to be in control." As with all birth-order positions, gender plays a role, too.In the case of firsts, oldest sons tend to be take-charge types, leaders.Take that into consideration and make compromises to keep the relationship solid.Oldest with Middle This can be a fine pairing most of the time, but the middle child's tendency to mold herself around her partner may leave her in danger of not following her own dreams.Salmon, if the only has had little experience with the relatively immature, attention-seeking behavior of the baby of the family.Perhaps no surprise, middles and onlies make a good match, with the middle child accustomed to the needy side as well as the possibly bossy side, of his or her "only" love.
Remember, such variables as gender and age spacing play a role in how close your personality hews to the birth-order line, says Dr. A middle child with close-in-age older and younger siblings is more "middle-ish" than one whose younger or older sibs are years apart.
Relationship Tip: Have frequent, air-clearing conversations about everything from money and sex to the kids, home and work so your individual needs don't get drowned in a sea of compromise.
Youngest with Middle While as a rule, middles can usually have harmonious relationships with someone from any birth order, this combo may present some issues.
However, some middle children (probably for the same reasons as above) can be secretive. Beloved, treasured, and in many cases babied for much longer than their older siblings (and often by their older siblings), the stereotypical youngest of the brood tends to be less responsible and more devil-may-care, with less of a hankering to take charge. In fact, many "grow up" more quickly than kids with sibs, thanks to how much time they spend with adults, says Dr. Wondering how different birth-order pairings typically get along romantically?
"That can be different if the baby of the family came after a gap of more than a few years, though," says Dr. In that case, the baby of the family may act more like an only child or an older sibling—as though the family had started all over again. Read on: Oldest with Oldest Can you say Bill and Hillary Clinton?