Then we had our own 8 children and before we knew it – the subject of girls, boys, love, and marriage came up. While it’s tempting to try and tuck love into some tidy box, it will never work like that. Rather than depending on someone else’s “step-by-step”, listen to the Spirit and how He is guiding. The world wants you to think that your happiness depends on finding the perfect guy – or girl. If you are a believer in Christ, then your joy is found in Him. Read the classic love stories found there, follow the instruction of the New Testament, and don’t forget the wisdom found in the book of Proverbs.
As it turned out, a few months later I reluctantly agreed to go on a “blind date” and knew immediately that I’d met the man I would marry. So that’s as close as I could come to “marrying without dating”. True love can be amazing, but it really doesn’t “fix” everything. Even the Bible talks about “the way of a man with a maid” as too wonderful to understand (Prov. Observe them in different contexts – work, home, leisure – and ask others what they see too.
One of these days I’m going to share our love story because that man of mine? Lisa is the happily-ever-after wife of Matthew Jacobson and together they enjoy raising and home-educating their 8 children in the beautiful Pacific Northwest.
We pray and trust God to watch over him and over her – both before and after that lovely wedding day.
If the courtship does not lead to marriage, the couple is able to walk away from the relationship without any emotional baggage, having been spiritually edified and respectful of one another as followers of Christ.
Their You Tube series “Worth the Wait” taught me how to better shape my idea of Christian courtship and what it looks like when it’s a success.
My husband and I pray most every day for the future spouse of each one of our children.
While I might not be a big fan of dating, I remain a devoted fan of love and marriage.
”I don’t know, but I sure wished there was another way. No need to be in a big, fat hurry DO take the time to assess the other person’s character. So don’t convince yourself that you know it all and understand everything.
Getting involved in a relationship – and deciding who you want to spend the rest of your life with – is a HUGE deal. No one has it all together, so why not embrace the fact that you’ll probably need to learn a thing or two in the process?