Girlfriends, you know what I'm talking about: the "no-show" flakes, the chronic complainers, the promising first couple of dates that lead nowhere? Signing up for online dating can be a little like learning to surf. Fortunately, men will signal their intentions and level of interest, usually in their very first e-mail. My goal for the women I coach is to go from receiving a few dozen e-mails a month to a few hundred, at which point weeding out the unsuitable and the un-serious becomes of paramount importance.
So here are some of the most obvious online dating "flags" I suggest you use to steer clear of players and time-wasters: 1. Beware if he sends you a "wink" or a "smile" instead of a properly written e-mail.
#24 He can say anything about his family but you can’t.
Want to avoid the disappointments and aggravation of online dating? Pick the wrong ones and you'll waste time and energy, occasionally suffering wipe-outs that can leave you dazed, distracted and dispirited when the right man or wave comes along.
Keep your replies short and sweet, light and breezy. You're a busy woman with lots of admirers, friends, projects and interests.
You certainly don't whistle back -- or go and start a conversation! It signals ambivalence and/or arrogance -- not decisiveness and determination.
See if your online dating site allows you to set your preferences to block winks, so that you won't be tempted down this time-wasting path. Subject bars that go "Hmmmmmmm....." You do not want to date Mr. If you're having trouble understanding why "Hmmmm" is problematic, then try this exercise.
But at the end of the day, men are visual creatures -- they either like your look or they don't. But if this e-mail makes no mention of anything specific from your profile, then it could have been addressed to dozens of other women on the web (and most likely has been and will be).
It is okay to spend some time getting the right photo - but don't waste time dilly dallying and dragging your feet about posting it. I remember one woman I was coaching was so excited to have received a "Hi Gorgeous!