A prostitute may expose her body, but her relationships are hardly intimate." cited a study of 100,000 women that linked "early sexual experience with dissatisfaction in their present marriages, unhappiness with the level of sexual intimacy and the prevalence of low self-esteem." So what does this mean?If Rob tries to convince Cindy, or any woman, that sex will actually help their relationship, she might want to think again before consenting.When Cindy met Rob, she knew that even though he attended church, he didn't share her convictions about premarital sex.Rob thought it was OK—and even good for dating couples to engage in—and Cindy believed it was wrong from a Christian perspective.For example, the man who hasn't ever seen or driven more than one car doesn't know what other cars are like; therefore he would be satisfied with his automobile.Partners can also feel threatened if they think their mate could be comparing them with previous partners.During their discussions about premarital sex, Rob insisted that it was good to engage in sex with a dating partner because "it brings you closer." Cindy believes that this is true, and not true.
It also forced them both to take a second look at their convictions.
Like many singles, Rob thinks the Scriptures on sexual purity are outdated and archaic. "Because I think we should cut those Scriptures out.
"Those parts of the Bible aren't relevant to today," he told Cindy. After all, if they're not true because people can't control their desires, why not completely eliminate them? Crazy or not, Cindy had made her point—there are holes in Rob's it's-not-true-because-people-can't-control-their-desires theology. Because, if his beliefs were based on truth, they would stand up in every circumstance, but they don't.
Additionally, if scriptures in the Bible became untrue because people can't control their desires, then we'd also have to cut out the commandments on stealing, lying, cheating and having affairs.
Sure enough, there are holes in Rob's sex-before-marriage theology, just like there would be holes in his Bible if Cindy cut it up.